This past week, a young girl came to tutoring in tears. I could tell she was trying to not cry or let me know she was upset. She had a rough day at school. This child has made wonderful progress in tutoring. It took half the tutoring time for her to be able to function well. She could focus to the side but struggled to focus facing forward. My opinion is that she tried so hard in school to do what she was told she was exhausted. Therefore, her skills to focus forward had been severely taxed. She also could walk better backwards than forwards for the same reason. Mom stayed in the same room where we tutored, as the child needed mom's presence for support.
As we were struggling for her to be able to learn, I had her take deep breaths to let out her anger, hurt feelings and fustration out. I had her take deep breaths as she lifted her shoulders and let the air out in a noisy whoosh. Her mom spoke up and said she does this sometimes and Mom did not realize why.
Many people think tutoring is helping a child with their homework. My tutoring is helping a child have the skills to be able to learn the work rather than helping them with the work. When the learning skills needed to learn are underdeveloped learning is such a challenge.
This is a child with ADHD and she had lost recess privileges and two stars for not having her pencils out for the lesson. This needs to be addressed with an IEP meeting. An IEP is an individual educational plan for this child. In my opinion to take recess away from an ADHD child is like punishing someone on crutches for taking too long to open a door for themselves instead to helping them open the door. Have you ever seen anyone act impatient with someone in a wheelchair or on crutches because they slowed them down? Having been on crutches myself for two years and in a wheelchair for a time; I take the time to be thankful I can walk, as I take the time to smile and help.